Worship Sharing on the Query: “Do you try to make your home a place of friendliness, refreshment and peace where God becomes more real to all who live there and to those who visit it?”
(Broken into two sessions--for all ages)
Preparation: Write the query on a large sheet of paper. “Do you try to make your home a place of friendliness, refreshment and peace where God becomes more real to all who live there and to those who visit it?”
Introduction (when the group has gathered): Today we are going to worship share on the query, “Do you try to make your home a place of friendliness, refreshment and peace where God becomes more real to all who live there and to those who visit it?”
1. Make certain that everyone in the worship sharing group is acquainted with everyone else. Perhaps go around the group asking all attenders to give their names and what kind of a home they live in (rented, big, little, country, town, many people, one person, etc.) Stress the many different kinds of homes that people live in.
2. Explain the worship sharing technique—especially that it is like meeting for worship in that we always leave a space of silence between each comment. One does not have to feel so deeply the urge to speak as in the regular meeting for worship. Worship sharing is a time to share on a specific topic.
3. Continue with something like, “Today we will be sharing on a query. Perhaps remind the group that Quakers do not have leaders who preach and teach the way in which we should live our lives. Rather, we have these questions called queries which are designed to help us think about what we are doing and to help us take a long cool look at ourselves.
4. In two sessions, we will be thinking about the query, “Do you try to make your home a place of friendliness, refreshment and peace where God becomes more real to all who live there and to those who visit it?” (Put up the large piece of paper with the query.) We will start by thinking about parts of the question.
5. Lead the group in centering, speaking and finally drawing out of the silence. Perhaps say, “Close your eyes. Relax. Think about friendliness in your home.” Out of the silence, speaking carefully, say what makes for friendliness in a home, any home. We will simply list ideas, perhaps writing suggestion on another sheet of paper.
6. When ideas run out, ask the group to zero in on their home. Pass out paper and markers or crayons. How do you make your home a place of friendliness? When you are ready, draw some of the things that make your home a place of friendliness.
7. When ready, ask if there is anyone who wishes to show and talk about his/her drawing. As leader, note which factors have to do with the people in the home and which are environmental (e.g. location, size, furnishings). Finally, close the session with some silence and post the pictures if you can—with permission of the participants.
1. Repeat the query. Ask those who were present during the first session to talk about the experience of friendliness for those who were unable to participate in the first session.
2. Consider refreshment and peace. Talk first about refreshment. What does it mean to feel refreshed? And what do you think makes for peace in the home? Again, compile lists of what your family offers in refreshment and peace.
3. Finally, using magazine photos, markers, words, colored paper, try creating a collage of the query as it is lived in your home.
Throughout worship sharing, as leader, plan on speaking first out of the silence after you have asked a question. Sometimes another participant in the group will go first, which is fine. Remember, however, that it is your responsibility to set the pace and make certain that everyone has a chance to participate, and then to summarize or tie the experience together at the end.
Adapted from Quaker Questions, Quaker Home Service.